Don’t Fear The V
How hard is it for you to share your true feelings of fear? Ever informed someone that you were uncomfortable? Have you ever been told you are too vulnerable?
My guess is that if you a man in your 40’s and older, that has not been something you have ever heard. It just was not modeled for the most part by our fathers. We were taught how to change the car oil, get a job, and fix things. Vulnerability was not something that most of us were taught.
I was raised in a single parent family for most of my younger years and being vulnerable was not a skill I was taught. I was taught to “man up”, “suck it up”, etc. We didn’t show emotion. Well we did show anger and sarcasm. That was about it. Vulnerability was something I work on daily as I enter my fourth decade of life. This was one of the hardest skills for me as a man, but one of the most beneficial assets as a person of influence.
You may be thinking, I don’t have time to be vulnerable. I just need to push through with my team or my customers and get the job done to move on to the next task. I understand business and getting work done. What I am talking about is building a trust with our teams or customers gives us the benefit of the doubt in bad situations. This kind of trust is more than the superficial arm-length kind of relationship. It brings people in to get to know us on a deeper level. A level that when the chips are down, they will step in to help without question.
Now let’s talk about what vulnerability is. Vulnerability is opening ourselves to be potentially judged, let down, hurt emotionally, and disappointed. Vulnerability is sharing details and emotions to show the real us. It is also an uneasy feeling when we disclose something about ourselves to someone in an effort to build deeper trust levels.
Vulnerability is deeper than honesty. When being honest, we can speak the truth, but still not build trust (just ask my wife). People can be rubbed the wrong way with honesty. We can not gain the connection with others when we are just honest. We need to develop our level of vulnerability with other individuals to gain deeper relationships. Vulnerability is a scary place for most people because there is that risk of being hurt, but the payoff is definitely greater.
I have worked with ex-navy seals, business owners, entrepreneurs, engineers, contractors, etc. The most successful people are vulnerable to those they need high levels of trust with. Leaders have to be vulnerable with those they lead. Leaders strive to grow the relationship with those around them so that when the time comes to dig deep, the leaders will have the buy in from those around them, and accomplish great things.
The reason why I have had such great success in sales is because I am vulnerable with my customers and team members. I trust them and pushed through my comfort zone to allow others in to see who I am. By doing so I have gained great relationships and trust with those around me. Together we have accomplished great things like a men’s ministry, winning multi-million multi-year contracts, and solid relationships that have stood the test of time.
This week I want to challenge us to open up instead of trying to conceal things. It’s okay to show the real us to others. We can share some of the things we struggle with and ask for help. Being vulnerable with where we are at will allow us to grow stronger and have others come along side of us to accomplish much more. My commitment this week is to listen and be more vulnerable to those around me and not jump in to fix it and move on. What is the next step you can do today to be more vulnerable with those around you?
Have a great day!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
You Need The R in Trust
Ever have someone tell you they will do something for you and they don’t follow through? Ever been that person that says they will be somewhere at a certain time and you forget? These types of situations actually affect trust. It’s when we don’t do what we say we are going to do that trust actually decreases.
Today, let’s talk about the second variable in the trust equation, Reliability. How reliable are you? When you say you’ll do something will you do it? Will you do it to the best of your ability? Do you forget to do it? Will you do the right thing when no one is looking? Do you think it is that big of a deal to be reliable?
It's a BIG DEAL!!! Trust is won or lost by our actions, not just our words.
I remember when I was younger, my father telling me to always do what you say you are going to do. Do not waiver. He also stated to do the right thing if everyone is watching and when no one is watching. Don’t tell me, show me is the slogan I have heard all my life from my father.
I remember when I first met my wife’s parents. We were up at their cottage grilling steaks and I was assisting my future father-in-law. I told him that I usually every spring season the grill grates after the first steaks have been cooked by applying foil to the top of the grates and turning the heat up high while I ate and then it would bake in all the flavor.
What I didn’t know is that his grill grates on his expensive grill were actually anodized aluminum and not steel…
Did you know when you crank up the heat and use foil that reflects the heat back into the grates that are anodized aluminum, they actually can’t take that much heat and melt and then break in half? Yep, it was an awesome first time meeting them let me tell you…
I told him that I would replace them even though my future father-in-law said don’t worry about it. The next day I was on the phone with the grill manufacturer ordering the new grates. I was originally going to order just two, but they informed me that they had two different sizes in that grill…. so, I ordered a complete set. Did you know that anodized aluminum grates cost more than any grill I have ever bought? Yep that’s right almost $300 for grates.
That weekend was the most expensive steak dinner I have ever had, but by doing the right thing and doing what I said I was going to do our relationship has grown and he has put a great deal of trust in me. He knows that if I say I will do something that I will get it done.
When we interact with our teams, customers, family, or friends we need to make it a constant effort to be reliable. Without being reliable it is almost impossible to have a trusting relationship. Especially when we are first getting to know others.
Here are a few things I do to make sure I follow through:
List it and do it – As you can see from the picture of this blog, I love to utilize post-it notes for my action items. I will literally list out something I need to do and stick it to my wallet when I leave so I do not forget what I set out to do. Some people use an app, but I am low tech. A side note is that when people cross things off list they feel good and empowered. If you are someone that keeps forgetting to do things, then maybe making a list and keeping it with you as a reminder might be a good tool.
Action It – I am bombarded with requests regularly and if I set something to the side I tend to forget about it, so I make sure I do it right away if I can. CEO’s have utilized this method of acting right away of forgetting it. Emails are a way they sort through action items to either take action right away, or throw it in the recycle bin.
Delegate it – If you are unable to do something and someone else is better equipped to handle the item then delegate it. John Maxwell has endorsed this idea of delegate to elevate. My wife and I set up weekly meetings to look at things that need to be done and delegate things that each other can do. It allows us to work more efficiently, communicate effectively, and flow in our strengths.
L.A.D. are three helpful options that I we can all utilize to make sure we are reliable.
Is there a time that pops in the back of your mind where someone else has fallen short being reliable? How did it make you feel? Did you lose a little trust in that person?
I know I will fall short sometimes, but I make it my best effort to do what I say I am going to do and if I am going to come in short, I communicate the situation and try to better the situation to the best of my ability. We need trust in order to keep moving forward with others. We need to focus on how we can make sure we are doing what we say we will do and apologize to anyone that we may have fallen short with.
Being reliable is essential in building trust.
Have a great day!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Making Great First Impressions
Hello Everyone!
Ever wonder why some people just seem to be able to make great impressions on others while others don’t? Ever struggle to make a great first impression yourself?
I have been thinking about this topic for a while now and decided that it was time to step up on my soap box. I firmly believe that we all need to know how to sell in order to make great first impressions. Whether we are going for a job interview (selling ourselves), out on a date (selling ourselves), leading an organization (selling vision and ourselves), or selling a product or service which means we need to know how to sell (ourselves), etc.
No matter what we are doing, we are selling ourselves as the best option for those around us. We share stories, build friendships, engage with coworkers etc. all of the time. Some people do this really well and some unfortunately do not. This is not simply determined if you are an introvert, or an extrovert to determine if you will do this well. What I am saying is that some just don’t sell themselves well enough.
There are three questions everyone asks at every interaction and they are as follows:
Do I like you?
Do I trust you?
How can you help me?
In seven seconds, a perception is formed about the other person based off these three questions. Now there are so many aspects to how one can affect those three questions, that it is key that we know how to sell and why these three questions are affected. Learning the sales process if even just for only buying decision 1, we are definitely on solid footing to move forward with other people.
How we are dressed, what environment we are in, our posture, our speech patterns, and many more aspects affect how people form their decisions about us. Have you ever heard the phrase. “we only get one chance to make a first impression?” This is because once someone makes that impression about us, it is extremely hard to change.
The sales process is the key to mastering the art of first impressions, building rapport, and likeability. Once we master the first buying decision of the sales process, we can build rapport with those around us faster! This will enable us to make great first impressions, obtain engagement from those around us, and create stronger relationships.
Wouldn’t it be nice to know how to sell and build relationships to make our lives better?
If you’d like to learn the sales process and how to gain influence, I have launched my online courses. It will enable you to master sales, implement the simple to use process, and become a top performer as well as how to build great levels of trust quickly.
Below are the two links to my online trainings to help you build rapport and influence with others. Both can be completed at your own pace and in the comfort of wherever you have a an internet connection.
Have a great week!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
How to build trust with employees continued. ..
Last week we talked about why leaders need to focus on building trust with their employees if they want to move forward, have engagement, and a good culture.
If you did not have a chance, go back and read last week’s blog on why we as leaders need to make sure we build relationships with our employees if we want to move forward faster with them.
On to why we need to think like sales professionals if we want to gain influence with our employees. Sales professionals are trained to gain influence and how to build relational collateral with people. I like to think of influence and relational collateral as a bank account. Consistent deposits over time gains great levels of influence. Constant withdrawls without deposits results in a bad relationship.
People will not buy from people they do not know, like, and trust. If we want employees to buy in to what we are wanting to do, then we need to make sure we are focused on them.
You may be wondering how we focus in correctly. It’s actually pretty simple and starts with three questions that the employee is asking about their leaders.
Do I like you?
Do I trust you?
How can you help me?
These three questions seem very selfish right? We all go into this thought process every time we meet another individual. It is hardwired into our brains for survival. When mankind was hunting and farming with their community they needed to know if they could also trust those around them. No one really wanted to get eaten by a saber toothed tiger right?
As a leader we need to be outward focused so we need to narrow in on these three questions and how we can answer them well for each and every employee that reports to us. If we can’t answer any of these questions, then we will not gain influence and engagement from our employees.
The next question you are probably are asking as you read this is how do we answer these three questions? We need to sit down and ask questions of the employees. That’s right, we need to be asking questions to understand our employees. People want to be understood and known. How do leaders do that? They ask questions.
Three main types of questions: Situational, Issues, and Ramifications kind of questions.
We need to understand where our employees are at, what issues they are facing, and what are the ramifications if those issues are not resolved. That is why when meeting with employees we should be using the same CRM that we use for our customers. We should be constantly learning about our employees. Not to leverage them, but to know them and their situation. By knowing where they are and what they are struggling with we will be able to help with solutions. By doing this we build influence and engagement as a biproduct.
If we do not and simply focus on getting a job done, we will see turn over, lack of engagement, and slow downs in work which end up driving higher costs eroding our profits. It is to our benefit if we take time to understand our employees and learn about them to help them. If we do so, we will be rewarded with what Dave Ramsey says, “They will charge the pits of hell with a water pistol for us,” if we show employees we care about them.
Have a great day!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
How To Build Trust With Your Employees
Are you new to an organization and need to get your team to follow you? Have you recently been promoted and your current reports were recently your peers? Do you have friends that now report to you?
When we take over a new role and have people reporting to us, we can’t simply believe they should follow us because of our position. Far too often people in positions fall back on this stance, I’m in the leadership position so everyone on the team must respect and follow my lead. Expecting people to follow us because of a title is not true leadership. If we want people to follow us we need to reframe our minds to be one of a servant leader.
That sounds very contradictory doesn’t it. A leader that serves. Shouldn’t it be the other way around? Our culture would want us to think that way, but the best way to lead is to focus on others. We need to serve them well as their leader.
To serve the team we first need to make sure that we are building trust with the team. In order to move forward with others then they first have to know, like, and trust us. If they don’t like and trust us, then we will have a slow lonely walk. In business today it is fast paced that if we do not have trust then we are going to be passed by the competition.
How do we build trust fast is what I am often asked when talking to leadership teams. We need to first put value on each person. Not for them as employees, but as individuals. Each person is unique and has unique gifts to help the team. We need to understand this and learn about our team members, not just to leverage their gifts, but to make them are known and valued. Just think of a team in surgery, each of them has specific gifts that will help them save a life. We need to focus on finding out each individuals gifts and show them they are valued.
By focusing on individuals, we start to learn about them just like a sales person should be learning about the customer. If we treat each individual as a customer, we start reframing our minds to thinking about how we can serve them well. We immediately kick into building rapport and trust. That’s what good sales professionals do best. They build relationships. At the core of any relationship is trust.
You may be asking yourself, what if I’m not a sales person. How do I do this? Spoiler alert, we are all sales people. Whether we have been on an interview, first date (interview), volunteering, parent, etc we are selling ourselves to others as a great option. We are all selling something whether it is ourselves, or ideas, or our passion to help people be their best selves.
Sales really is not that hard. I was an introverted engineer when I started in sales. It does not get much more difficult than that. I like my alone time and I am a 1’s and 0’s black and white kind of person. I still have thrived in sales because I focus on helping people get to a better place. If we are in a leadership position, we can thrive as by putting on our sales hat and building trust with those that report to us. Next week I’ll walk through the first buying decision in sales and how leaders can adapt that to building trust and relationships with those that report to them.
For now, sit back and think of a few relationships that could be improved by thinking like a sales person. Not to sell them something, but how you can serve them and help them get to a better place.
Have a great day!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Why Should They Trust Us?
Today we get into the second question that employees are asking themselves when speaking to to leadership. Do I trust you?
That is a huge question that if answered No, can stop engagement in its tracks. If the employees do not trust the leadership then the organization is just going to be stagnant. Now if you have ever walked by a stagnant pool or water, what did you notice? There was likely a not so pleasant smell and algae growing on the top of the water. Would we want our organizations to become stagnant?
I have spent the majority of my career studying why people buy products and services as well as why people buy into leadership. Being that I was an engineer there had to be an equation to the solution. Magic was also not going to be the answer. What I found is that when people use humor, are upfront, and show empathy towards others. That is when people really start to open up and trust.
I’ve had a manager that had issues gaining trust. This manager would openly tell anyone he first met within the first few minutes about his Christianity, but his actions would contradict what he would say he stands for. He was explosive to be around and would demand you follow his view points. If you challenged his view points, watch out!
This kind of behavior erodes trust the same as lying to others. Trust is crucial for any kind of growth individuals
So how can we grow trust fast? Here are four principals that will help us grow trust with individuals.
1. Social Proof
2. Heart of a teacher
3. Open and honest communication
4. Encourage others to hold the microscope
Social proof is using a mutual connection between the someone else and yourself. So many people like Dr. Oz, Dr. Phil, music artists, etc would see huge followings after being on the Oprah show. Once they leveraged that connection, they were considered the go to expert. Now we can’t all get on the Oprah channel, but we can leverage anyone that we know who knows us well that could reach out on our behalf.
Having a heart of a teacher is offering help to the others get to a better place even if it does not benefit ourselves initially. Teaching to give free knowledge for the heart of helping others is something that is lacking in today’s culture. People tend to only want to help if they will receive something in return in that transaction. If we want to gain trust, we have to have a heart of a teacher to help others. Not for what we will gain, but to help. Zig Ziglar stated, that we will get all we want out of life, if we help enough other people get what they want. I love that concept!
Open and honest communication means reaching out when we see something bad coming, but also making sure that others are aware and that we have their back. Making sure that they are communicated to in a personal level is key. Pick up the phone when we can instead of just sending an email. This is something that I still struggle with sometimes when I am busy, but what I have learned is making sure I communicate is key. Keep in mind the written word it taken negative most times when someone reads it. Most of communication is nonverbal, posture, tone of voice, etc. An email does not have the same impact as a verbal, or in person conversation.
The last key thing to do is encouraging others to hold the microscope. No one is perfect so we should stop thinking we are. We should stop judging others by their actions and want ourselves to be judged by our intent. We should give others the opportunity to speak life into areas that we may have blind spots to.
There you have it. Four ways to grow trust fast. SHOE… We need to have our shoes on if we plan to walk the talk :)
Have a great day!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Do You have My Back?
Chances are if you have direct reports, they are asking this question about you.
Has anyone ever asked you the following question…Do you have my back? Firefighters often have two men working on a hose line in a fire. There are multiple reasons for this like high pressure and volume of water going through the hose that is hard to handle, but more important, if something happens to one of the firefighters the other has the chance to help pull them out of danger. They have each other’s backs!
Chances are if you have direct reports, they are asking this question about you. Maybe not about life and death like fire fighters, but for their job safety. They were trying to figure this out the moment they start working for you.
Your direct reports want to know that when the chips are down that you will have their back as long as they are doing what is right and ethical. Far too often in business, employees feel they have to CYA because they do not trust their management. CYA stands for Cover Your Assets (Assets is sometimes shortened).
I have experienced in the issue of having to CYA myself in communications due to a lack of support from management. It agitated me greatly because I believed I was left to fight for myself. It is a lonely position to be in as a report. Here’s the thing, relationships do not thrive in this kind of environment.
Employees want to know that their management has their back when the chips are down and that they can reach out to their managers when they need help. Far too many managers are so busy themselves they forget to establish ground rules for trust and communication at the beginning of the relationship. There needs to be a set of ground rules of engagement set up from the beginning. Leaving it up to assumption is a recipe for a bad relationship. There are a few managers out there unfortunately that don’t really care about relationships with their reports and should look to either move on from their position or retire.
When trust and communication are not flowing it becomes like a body of water with no movement. It becomes toxic and everything in it dies. When trust and communication are absent anxiety also starts sets in. When Fear takes hold, trust and relationships die.
If reports don’t trust their manager, then where does the employee bounce ideas off of to move forward in the correct direction? Where do they expect to get mentorship? Where do these reports learn the correct way of operating for the organization?
Often employees have enough of this lack of trust and communication and elect to leave the department, or worse the organization. The intrinsic knowledge that the employee has is also following them right out the door. The cycle of interview, inboard, and hope this employee stays starts over.
The cost of onboarding is excessive, so why not work to make sure your reports know that you have their back, how to communicate, and trust.
The answer is setting up guard rails with your direct reports from the beginning to make sure they understand how the trust and communication can work together. Setting these guard rails up will keep everything moving better and work life to improve. Employees need to know that they can trust their managers and management. Having that trust and communication will allow the employees to excel and thrive with you long term. If not then be prepared for stagnation in your organization.
What is Rapport and Why Is It Necessary?
I actually had both the better product and the cheaper price, but still lost the sale when I was starting out.
I’ve heard sales people over the years say a sale is only dependent only on the price. The cheapest price will win the sale every time. I have heard others say that people will just want to buy the product and nothing else matters. If you have the better product then you will win the sale.
I actually had both the better product and the cheaper price, but still lost the sale when I was starting out. There was this sales representative from my competitor that had such a great relationship with the customers and the customer’s customers. He got all the deals. He had some much influence that people would almost flock to him like he was a celebrity.
This sales person had an inferior product from benefits and features stand point and had a higher price, but with his impact on people he just won. It blew my mind and I could not wrap my mind around it. I am engineer by nature so I tend to go black and white with details. It did not compute. I researched the competition and knew what I was up against. I had it nailed all of the aspects that people had told me. What I did not have down was the grey area where relationships reside.
I speak to this quite often when teaching sales professionals that there are three things that everyone asks themselves subconsciously as they walk up to you:
Do I like you?
Do I trust you?
How can you help me?
When I finally realized what this variable was that I was getting my butt kicked on. It was the relationships. When I started out in sales I was told to build rapport.
Rapport is defined as “A positive or close relationship between people that often involves mutual trust, understanding and attention. Those that develop rapport often have realized that they have similar interests, knowledge, or behaviors” – businessdictionary.com
Most sales trainings teach you to look around the room with your customer and find a way to connect on similar hobbies, activities, family, etc. This is a good beginning to building a relationship with your customer, but there is a great need to go deeper with the customer. Just merely having similar interests and viewpoints is a good start, but it is a superficial level. If you want to have relationships that a deep and fruitful, you need to go deeper.
Dale Carnegie training taught me how to build get deeper relationships. This is done mainly with a mindset of being truly focused on the customer to know them and help them. Having such a relationship will help you form relationships and build unmatched influence. You end up with a relationship that brings you more opportunities and also have the customer being an advocate with others to bring you more business. The best realtors are a great example of this. They gain new customers by word of mouth from previous customers. Word of mouth is still the best form of advertising. When someone is looking to buy or sell a home, everyone is speaking about the select few realtors that the person needs to work with.
To build deep relationships with customers you need rapport, focus on learning about them, and having trust. Use these three things and you will have strong relationships with your customers and have a solid future in sales.
I have created a quick and easy online training for you called trustworthy to help you build great levels of trust quickly.
By building deep relationships with customers, I was able to land a $20 million per year five-year contract. That is $100 million contract. I was able to obtain information needed to kick off my team and produce a proposal that put my organization in play for a program that we were not thought of as a possibility prior.
If you would like to carry the conversation deeper comment on this blog, reach out via email, or do the old-fashioned thing and give me a call so we can discuss deep relationships in sales.
Have a great weekend.
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
So You Want To Lead...Better Know Sales!
I was not sure why I needed to know sales at the time to be a good manager, but I knew I would figure out why someday.
When I first started in sales it was on the premise that if I wanted to be a great manager, business owner, lawyer, president, I needed to know sales. That is what a successful business owner told me after I had told him that I wanted to be a manager in the next five years. He was a great leader and still has people working for him that were with him since he opened his company in the mid 1980’s. I was not sure why I needed to know sales at the time to be a good manager, but I knew I would figure out why someday.
At first, I was hesitant to change careers. Six months of hesitation and discussions to be exact. I did not want to be a salesperson because all life had taught me was that they were only out for their own gain. I did not want to actively be associated with that stigma?
When I did decide to try this sales thing out, I figured that sales would be easy. The first year of sales was a rude awakening. It literally looked like a heartbeat of someone that just took their last breath. I was fortunate to have a chance to keep going and learning from the successful business owner in what he called “hands on training.”
Hands on training meant that I was to help him with projects after hours, gain training from peers, and hours of trainings to perfect my craft. I did weekend deliveries, helped him with personal projects, etc. Basically, anything he needed extra help with I was there. This was valuable time with him mentoring me all he knew about sales and business.
I excelled from then on to become a great sales leader in my industry and even relocated to another part of the United States to help grow a new territory. We did very well there with great purpose. Customers started opening up fast to me and sales were increasing as the years went by. I was awarded the prize of top salesman for the United States and had taken the territory to where it had never been. I won’t give all those secrets away today on how we did this, but I can tell you it was not because we were the cheapest price or by doing anything unethical.
What I can tell you is that this success was because of Influence. As influence increases people trust us more and are willing to go deeper in relationships with us. These relationships open up the doors to long lasting and deep relationships. The more influence someone has the more they excel in whatever they are doing.
I had customers asking me about other aspects about their business as time went on. They were confiding in me as a trusted asset that could help them break through their ceiling to the next level. It was eye opening that I was able to help them with simple things up to the complex integrations of business solutions.
What I found is that the sales process that I keynote and perform trainings on helps people build amazing amounts of influence fast! That is right, selling correctly helps us build influence! Keep in mind that selling is not just a product or service. It can be selling a vision, mission, or idea that we need others to help us achieve. By building influence using the sales process, leaders gain more engagement their teams.
As you look around your organization look at those relationships of those that go out of their way to help you and those that don’t. See how much influence you have with each of these groupings of people. The more influence you have, the farther you and your organization will go.
Happy selling!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
The Cold Call...
A cold call will take most people out of their comfort zone.
How many of you fear picking up the phone and calling a prospect that you have never talked to before?
How many of you visualize the person on the other end of the phone screaming to stop calling?
A cold call will take most people out of their comfort zone. It’s scary, we don’t want people hating us while we call at dinner time. They also will likely not believe us when we say our name is Tom, John, Sam when we have an accent from another country (with more interesting names). Many organizations these days have gone to the robo call which is really annoying.
I especially like when they start the message with “Don’t hang up…” They are literally telling me to hang up on them subconsciously by saying that opening line. A better opening would be “ Keep listening for some great information…” That would create more tension in me to want to hear more.
Cold calling is almost an art form. To get the person on the line and talk to us takes practice. I still to this day do cold calls to associations and businesses to drive more business. Prospecting is key in growing our business. Cold calling is not just dialing a phone either. We can walk into a business that we have reviewed and think would benefit from our expertise. Just watch for those no trespassing signs.
Cold calling is not natural for me as I am more of an introvert by nature. Pushing myself out of my comfort zone is a must if I want to grow my business. I have gotten voicemails and had to leave a message, people asking me to call them back later, people using a firm tone that they are not interested, and sometimes, sometimes I get great conversations with them and an appointment to visit to discuss more.
That is what the cold call really is. The opportunity for the further conversation. We are likely not going to make a sale on this call. Our focus should be to get that opportunity to come in and sit with the person to learn about them and their organization. How we can help them get to a better place. Our product possibly will enable them to take that next step in their growth. That is a good reason to talk to prospects? We need the opportunity to start the conversation.
Insurance sales professionals have lists of people they cold call every day. They have studied statics over the years and have a metric that out of ten calls three should result in “Fact Finding Opportunities” and then should result in one quotation of their product. That is a 10% success rate for sales. Very few professions have studied the results. I have met quite a few wealthy insurance sales professionals and they all have told me that they do this by making cold calls. If we are going to be successful selling, we need to do cold calls and prospect.
Keep in mind though that the person on the other line has three questions that they are asking themselves when we start talking.
1. Do I like this person?
2. Do I trust this person?
3. How can this person help me?
If you’ve read my book, “That Sales Process Uncovered”, been to a training, or been a reader of my blog for a while you should be able to answer these questions for them. Social media such as linked In, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc have made it even easier to research our prospects prior to the cold call. We just need to do the research.
For now, don’t fear the cold call. Accept it as an opportunity to help potential customers get to a better place. Who knows, you may strike up a great conversation and learn something new about someone that will help you at a later date. This is your opportunity to start helping people. Now pick up the phone and see how.
Have a great weekend!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Did You Know You Are In Customer Service?
People tend to tell everyone they know about how great an experience was as well as how awful an organization is to deal with.
I have had great customer service experiences at organizations and not so great experiences from other organizations. These experiences have ranged from great purchasing experiences to awful hold times with the worst elevator music ever composed. I have had IT people who walked me through the complete inner workings of their phones and helped me with my purchase, and I have been treated as if I was a burden on the representative that had to take another call during their shift.
People tend to tell everyone they know about how great an experience was as well as how awful an organization is to deal with. There is a lot riding on customer service and if our organizations are not careful, we will lose out on a great deal of opportunities in the future. Here’s the thing though…everyone in the organization is actually working in customer service. That’s right it does not matter the position. When we interact with customers, we are essentially working in customer service.
It does not matter if we are the CEO, a sales person, an engineer, a call center employee, or a janitor. We are ambassadors for the organizations we represent. We have the opportunity to build up or tear down the reputation of our organization by how we treat others. We need to keep that in mind when we are sporting our organization’s name, at events, and even what we post on social media.
It also does not matter if we are not a paid, or not. When people see us representing an organization, they are making the association no matter our affiliation. People will make their perceptions about the organization based on the people they interact with.
I have had people in organizations tell me they don’t care if a customer likes it or not because they don’t have to interact with the customer regularly. It’s frankly, not their job. Unfortunately, what these individuals don’t understand is that the customer is buying products / services that are in turn funding their paycheck. Make enough customers stop buying from our organization and then we are all looking for other employment.
When the customer has a bad experience, social media allows them to send their experience all over the world in a matter of seconds. Organizations do not have the ability to respond to every negative comment on all of the social media platforms. There is just too much area to cover, but we can make sure we do our part and give the customer a great experience each and every time we interact with them.
No one is above customer service. We are all serving customers. Whether we like it or not, our organizations are judged by our actions. Keep that in mind when you are wearing your organization’s logo, or at an event for your organization. Make the interaction a positive one. Be courteous, helpful, gracious, and humble. Go the extra mile to help someone even if they are not buying from you right then and there. Your organization’s reputation and your paycheck actually do depend on it.
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Why Emails Aren’t Necessarily Better
How many times have you said, “I’ll just send a quick email” and it took twenty back and forth emails to where you finally picked up the phone to clear something up?
Have you ever gotten really upset with someone over email only to find out that they did not mean any harm when they sent it?
How about this one? Have you ever been overwhelmed because you had so many emails to respond to?
How many times have you said, “I’ll just send a quick email” and it took twenty back and forth emails to where you finally picked up the phone to clear something up?
Have you ever gotten really upset with someone over email only to find out that they did not mean any harm when they sent it?
How about this one? Have you ever been overwhelmed because you had so many emails to respond to?
I am guilty of all three of these more times than I care to admit. Over 124 billion emails are sent each day all over the world in hopes of resolving questions fast. Email was created to make communication easier and efficient. The issue is most people think that email is the save all be all when it comes to communicating to others. They hide behind computer screens sending off their requests and responses in hopes that the issue will go away quickly, only to have the email come boomeranging back with more questions or requests for information. Then we send responses and more questions of our own to the other person to which they respond, and the conversation keeps going on and on very slowly.
A few things to remember on emails are that in great communication the majority of communication is non-verbal (or written word), people tend to take written word in a negative point of view, and the person reading the words does not always know the context. This makes it ever harder for you to communicate effectively through email. Text messaging is also one of these communication mediums that get people into trouble. People tend to use it also as a means to cya (look it up) in case something bad happens.
Emails can be used also in harassment cases. I have seen people twist words from emails into the ability to sue an organization for harassment. Keep that in mind when you are upset and wanting to respond to someone to make yourself feel better. The same can be said for text messages.
Back to the main topic with emails… Most questions are easily answered, but I bet the number of emails would greatly decrease if people used a phone call instead. I have found that reaching out to others via conference calls, quick phone calls, or video meetings obtain faster results in less time than the flurry of emails that depending on workloads take days or weeks to have the responses come back to close the discussion.
New software platforms such as Loom, Zoom, Teams, Meets are being presented into the marketplace for people to speed communication up greatly. Most smart phones have the ability to video call now as well. Let’s also not forget about walking up to the people we need to communicate in person if we are in the same office.
People crave community and relationships so being present is a best way to communicate in my opinion. The problem is that we as a society have focused so much on becoming efficient in communication that we tend to miss the mark when trying to communicate. Communicating with others is vital to get our goals accomplished. It is very rare for someone to complete a great task all on their own. They need others to help them move forward.
I have taken great pride in increasing my communication by helping others understand clearly what I am trying to accomplish. Most of the time I try to do that with conversation rather than email. Please be intentional when working through emails to be as clear as possible in communicating if you chose not to talk to the person and help them understand the complete setting.
If you must write an email below is a process I work through when sending out emails:
1. Write the email as though the person receiving the email has no idea what you are talking about and the scope of the situation. ( But keeps short of a thesis paper)
2. Focus on your audience and especially if they are in another country to not write your email in your slang as they may not understand it.
3. Read the email through prior to sending to make sure the topics are clear and concise.
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Do You Know The Most Important Variable In Trust?
We have seen politicians, CEO’s, and sales professionals all brag about how they did something great and how they deserve all the credit. Unfortunately, anything worth doing takes a great deal of effort and typically takes support of others.
Now that the elections are hopefully over and trust is very much a commodity that is lacking today, I figured I’d talk about one of the biggest factors in building trust. We need trust in others if we are going to go anywhere. Without trust not much is possible. Today let’s talk about one of the most important variables in building trust.
That variable is Selfishness. We have seen politicians, CEO’s, and sales professionals all brag about how they did something great and how they deserve all the credit. Unfortunately, anything worth doing takes a great deal of effort and typically takes support of others. We need to make sure we are not killing trust with self-promotion.
When I created the trust equation it was to make it easy for people to see the basics of building trust. You can be very creditable, reliable, and vulnerable, but if we are only doing this to help ourselves “WIN” we actually “LOSE.” We will not be able to gain trust and sustain it if we are only out for our own gain. If we are selfish and only doing things to be able to leverage in another instance, we will soon erode trust. People will see it especially if we are doing this over and over again. True we may be able to fake our selfishness for a little while to obtain short term gains, but trust is really a long-term play. People will figure us out, as selfishness is like a spotlight shining bright into the night sky.
Selfishness tells people that we do not value them and do not care about them. Who wants to trust someone like that? Have you ever been around someone that you tried to give more and more trust and it just seemed to blow up in your face each and every time? It is really hard to keep wanting to extend them the benefit of doubt. After a while, trust in that person is just not an option.
By being selfish we can quickly turn relationships sour. In sales or leadership if this happens, we really start losing our influence, which is the key ingredient to business success. Without trust there is no influence. We may think that if we have leverage over someone we can have influence them, but I challenge that thought because once that leverage is gone there is no more influence. Ever here about Julius Cesar? His good friend stabbed him in the back. Now typically an actual stabbing does not happen in business, but there have been stories in business where boards have thrown the CEO out of the organization overnight. Even Steve Jobs was asked to step down at one point at Apple.
I am constantly taking inventory in my life to gauge how selfish I am being. I’m sure I fail to live up to my standard, but my focus is on not being selfish and trying to help everyone that I can. I put my expertise out there to help others gain knowledge. I do not do it so I can say, see what I have done, but to share so that people can avoid mistakes that I have run into in the past. My goal is to help you become more efficient and successful especially with areas of sales and influence.
The key is to really take an inventory of our relationships and see if there are any areas where we are being selfish. Are there some relationships that we have been one sided on? Have we made any recent mistakes that an apology will help start the road back to building trust? Selfishness can be fixed when we take an honest look at how we have behaving with others.
If we want to have a greater trust level, then our selfishness must be put in check.
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Trust Building Skills To Practice
Trust is a commodity these days that is in high demand. People need to trust others that they are working on tasks that will help the organization move forward.
Welcome back to this week’s blog post on trust building skills to practice. Most people overlook the aspect of building trust with others. Here’s the deal with that thought process…no one goes far without others being along side of them. That’s right we need people and if they don’t trust us, those people will not walk with us on the journey.
Trust is a commodity these days that is in high demand. People need to trust others that they are working on tasks that will help the organization move forward. With a great deal of people working remote during the pandemic it is difficult to connect with people and follow up with them without another dreadful online meeting. I think everyone has meeting fatigue at this point.
Trust is needed and what I have found is that using the sales process is a great way to build trust. Sales people are trained to gain trust and grow influence with customers quickly. This is a must if we want sales to grow. No, being a sales person is not just about making a sale. It’s about growing relationships with customers. Really good sales people are actually honest and well-liked individuals. Sales people for the most part are not sleezy, just hunting to make a sale, and they are not people that will sell their family members in order to grow profits.
I created my book and my training called “The Sales Process Uncovered,” to show people how we all need sales and how sales is actually supposed to function with growing relationships and influence. That’s right learning sales is not a bad thing. CEO’s need to know sales, people dating are actually selling themselves as the best solution to each other, pastors need to sell themselves as a shepard helping others learn more about God, etc.
Bottom line is that if we want to build trust, the sales process is actually a great roadmap.
Here are three areas in the sales process that will help you gain trust.
Build Rapport with people. Rapport is a fancy word for being likeable. That’s right, no one really wants to hang out with Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh. People want to hang out with happy and likeable friends. Being likeable is crucial in building trust because it engages people to learn more about us. Now there are tons of aspects that affect likeability from the environment we are in, to the colors we wear, the scents, etc. If we are violating any of these aspects it will be very hard for us to be considered likeable.
Credibility is another area that builds trust. People are actually looking to interact with others in order to get to a better place. They seek out credible people to walk with. Being credible is mainly known as being educated in a certain subject, but there are other ways to build credibility. We can gain credibility by linking other people together. That’s right when we help people get to where they want to go, by introducing people to each other that builds credibility for us. I call this phenomenon being the bridge. We are bridging people together and in return we become a credible source for others.
Now the third area in building trust is one that I often fall short on. It is Empathy I grew up in a strict environment with only one parent that was focused on driving through to finish the task no matter how it gets done. Just keep moving don’t show emotion, rub some dirt on a broken ankle, and hobble along. Just figure out how to finish the task no matter how people feel. What I have learned is that people really want to feel known and empathy is the key to getting into people’s heart. People may not remember what we did for them, but they will always remember how we made them feel. People’s feelings will mark out the direction in which they engage with us.
I encourage you to pick up a sales book whether it is mine, or someone else’s to learn how to gain rapport with others. It will greatly impact the way you gain trust. No, you don’t need to go into sales if you don’t want to, but learning the sales process will allow you to learn how to gain trust and influence at a great level.
If you want to get something done quick, you may be able to do it, but if you want to go far, you need others with you to help you on the journey.
Have a great day!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Why You Need Trust In The Workplace
We need to make sure we are forming a trusting environment because speed and cost are the two variables in business that are affected by trust.
Good morning everyone,
As we enter into fall and are looking at how many work days there are left before the end of the year, I decided to write on this topic so teams can focus on a building better team environment to end the year off right. That’s right we need to have trust in the workplace if we are going to do well.
If we are a manager that does not have trust for our employees then we are going to micro manage them. If we do not trust the employees, we spend much of our time checking and rechecking their work. If we do that, how can we continue to grow ourselves, and still move the group farther? It’s like rowing a boat with our hands instead of an oar.
If we do not trust our colleges enough then we are doing extra work as well to make sure we hit the outcome we desire. That means more stress, longer hours, less efficiency, and drain on our attitudes. Then comes the mixed emotions of stress and disengagement with work and family. When teams are not in a high trust environment, they are not working efficiently. People are not communicating well and issues are sometimes hidden. The only time management sees an issue is when a major event occurs.
If we are in a large organization and the engineering team is not trusted by other teams, then the design will be delayed to launch. If this is a publicly traded entity and launches are delayed guess what happens to the stock price valuation…
We need to make sure we are forming a trusting environment because speed and cost are the two variables in business that are affected by trust. When we are in a high trust environment speed goes up and cost goes down. When that happens, guess what happens to profits…they go UP!
When we are in a high trust environment people will be allowed to move quicker without having to get tons of approvals and tons of double checking. Everything flows faster and work is completed with less bureaucracy. It’s like a river that is allowed to flow, it is clean, but when it is blocked up, everything becomes stagnant and scummy.
We need to make sure that we are working on ways to build trust throughout our organization so that we can work more efficiently. If trust happens and grows, the outcome will be increased profits.
If you’d like to know ways to improve trust check out the link below that will take you to my video that discusses this topic more as well as a few tools that I have created to help build long lasting trust.
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Vulnerability is Crucial For Trust
I have worked with ex-navy seals, business owners, entrepreneurs, engineers, contractors, etc. The most successful people are vulnerable to those they need high levels of trust with.
Have you ever been told you are too vulnerable? My guess is that if you a man in your 40’s and older, that has not been something you have ever heard. It just was not modeled for the most part by our fathers. We were taught how to change the car oil, get a job, and fix things. Vulnerability was not something that most of us were taught.
I was raised in a single parent family for most of my younger years and being vulnerable was not a skill I was taught. I was taught to “man up”, “suck it up”, etc. We didn’t show emotion. Well we did show anger and sarcasm. That was about it. Vulnerability was something I work on daily. This was one of the hardest skills for me as a man, but one of the most beneficial assets as a person of influence.
You may be thinking, I don’t have time to be vulnerable. I just need to push through with my team or my customers and get the job done to move on to the next task. I understand business and getting work done. What I am talking about is building a trust with our teams or customers gives us the benefit of the doubt in bad situations. This kind of trust is more than the superficial arm-length kind of relationship. It brings people in to get to know us on a deeper level. A level that when the chips are down, they will step in to help without question.
Now let’s talk about what vulnerability is. Vulnerability is opening ourselves to be potentially judged, let down, hurt emotionally, and disappointed. Vulnerability is sharing details and emotions to show the real us. It is also an uneasy feeling when we disclose something about ourselves to someone in an effort to build deeper trust levels.
Vulnerability is deeper than honesty. When being honest, we can speak the truth, but still not build trust (just ask my wife). People can be rubbed the wrong way with honesty. We can not gain the connection with others when we are just honest. We need to develop our level of vulnerability with other individuals to gain deeper relationships. Vulnerability is a scary place for most people because there is that risk of being hurt, but the payoff is definitely greater.
I have worked with ex-navy seals, business owners, entrepreneurs, engineers, contractors, etc. The most successful people are vulnerable to those they need high levels of trust with. Leaders have to be vulnerable with those they lead. Leaders strive to grow the relationship with those around them so that when the time comes to dig deep, the leaders will have the buy in from those around them, and accomplish great things.
Take a look at the picture for this blog post. Those jets are flying a high rates of speed and crossing each other’s paths. Think they have high levels of trust to perform these stunts? The answer is yes. They also have to be in sink because one small mistake could end their lives. They need this deep level of trust in order to do this. They also have to be vulnerable enough when practicing to let others know their comfort levels.
The reason why I have had such great success in sales is because I am vulnerable with my customers and team members. I trust them and pushed through my comfort zone to allow others in to see who I am. By doing so I have gained great relationships and trust with those around me. Together we have accomplished great things like a men’s ministry, winning multi-million multi-year contracts, and solid relationships that have stood the test of time.
This week I want to challenge us to open up instead of trying to conceal things. It’s okay to show the real us to others. We can share some of the things we struggle with and ask for help. Being vulnerable with where we are at will allow us to grow stronger and have others come along side of us to accomplish much more. My commitment this week is to listen and be more vulnerable to those around me and not jump in to fix it and move on. What is the next step you can do today to be more vulnerable with those around you?
Have a great day!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Building Trust With The "R" Word
Today, let’s talk about the second variable in building trust. It’s Reliability. How reliable are you? When you say you’ll do something will you do it? Will you do it to the best of your ability? Do you forget to do it? Will you do the right thing when no one is looking? Do you think it is that big of a deal to be reliable?
It's a BIG DEAL!!! Trust is won or lost by your actions, not just your words.
I remember when I was younger, my father telling me to always do what you say you are going to do. Do not waiver. He also stated to do the right thing if everyone is watching and when no one is watching. Don’t tell me, show me is the slogan I have heard all my life from my father.
I remember when I first met my wife’s parents. We were up at their cottage grilling steaks and I was assisting my future father-in-law. I told him that I usually every spring season the grill grates after the first steaks have been cooked by applying foil to the top of the grates and turning the heat up high while I ate and then it would bake in all the flavor.
What I didn’t know is that his grill grates on his expensive grill were actually anodized aluminum and not steel…
Did you know when you crank up the heat and use foil that reflects the heat back into the grates that are anodized aluminum, they actually can’t take that much heat and melt and then break in half? Yep, it was an awesome first experience…
I told him that I would replace them even though my future father-in-law said don’t worry about it. The next day I was on the phone with the grill manufacturer ordering the new grates. I was originally going to order just two, but they informed me that they had two different sizes in that grill…. so, I ordered a complete set. Did you know that anodized aluminum grates cost more than any grill I have ever bought? Yep that’s right almost $300 for grates.
That weekend was the most expensive steak dinner I have ever had, but by doing the right thing and doing what I said I was going to do our relationship has grown and he has put a great deal of trust in me. He knows that if I say I will do something that I will get it done.
When we interact with our teams, customers, family, or friends we need to make it a constant effort to be reliable. Without being reliable it is almost impossible to have a trusting relationship. Especially when we are first getting to know others.
Here are a few things I do to make sure I follow through:
List it and do it – As you can see from the picture of this blog, I love to utilize post-it notes for my action items. I will literally list out something I need to do and stick it to my wallet when I leave so I do not forget what I set out to do. Some people use an app, but I am low tech. A side note is that when people cross things off list they feel good and empowered. If you are someone that keeps forgetting to do things, then maybe making a list and keeping it with you as a reminder might be a good tool.
Action It – I am bombarded with requests regularly and if I set something to the side I tend to forget about it, so I make sure I do it right away if I can. CEO’s have utilized this method of acting right away of forgetting it. Emails are a way they sort through action items to either take action right away, or throw it in the recycle bin.
Delegate it – If you are unable to do something and someone else is better equipped to handle the item then delegate it. John Maxwell has endorsed this idea of delegate to elevate. My wife and I set up weekly meetings to look at things that need to be done and delegate things that each other can do. It allows us to work more efficiently, communicate effectively, and flow in our strengths.
L.A.D. are three helpful options that I we can all utilize to make sure we are reliable.
Is there a time that pops in the back of your mind where someone else has fallen short being reliable? How did it make you feel? Did you lose a little trust in that person?
I know I will fall short sometimes, but I make it my best effort to do what I say I am going to do and if I am going to come in short I communicate the situation and try to better the situation to the best of my ability. We need trust in order to keep moving forward with others. We need to focus on how we can make sure we are doing what we say we will do and apologize to anyone that we may have fallen short with.
Being reliable is essential in building trust.
Have a great day!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Want to Build Trust? Start with the letter C
Credibility is typically linked to knowledge. A person goes to school, gets a degree and then they are finally credible on a subject. While that is very true, there are other aspects to Credibility that many do not think about.
Hey everyone,
I have noticed a rise in interest in learning about building trust. Today Trust is in high demand. Employees and management need to establish trust more than ever especially with the working remote situations. In uncertain times, it is trust that is the key ingredient in moving forward and achieving desired goals.
There are many aspects to trust and how to build high levels of trust. Different environments also require different levels of trust. I have been asked many times for a simple roadmap in building trust. That is why I have created the Trust equation. Something simple for people to remember and be able to apply. I have also spoken to Multi-Billion dollar organizations to help teams build trust by using this equation.
Today I want to focus in on one part of that equation because going into the entire equation in one sitting would require a great deal or reading on your part. For today let’s focus in on “Credibility.” Credibility actually has a few components to it and some that most people don’t think about.
Credibility is typically linked to knowledge. A person goes to school, gets a degree and then they are finally credible on a subject. While that is very true, there are other aspects to Credibility that many do not think about. One is effective communication and the other is called “being the bridge.”
I have seen very intelligent individuals lose credibility because they could not effectively communicate with others. That’s right, just because they have a great deal of knowledge, does not automatically grant them credibility. Everyone needs to be able to communicate effectively! There are many courses that help on effective communication topics, but the biggest effect on communication is the ability to break complex topics into understandable language. That means not using really big dictionary words when a simple word can be used. If we can communicate effectively then we can build trust and generate credibility.
Now the other component I mentioned earlier is what I call “being the bridge.” This is something that I learned when I first got into sales. If I was able to connect people needing help in a certain area with those that had the knowledge, I built credibility. That’s right because I was bridging the gap for them, then I am deemed a credible source as well. When we bridge others together, we are associated with one that adds value. Adding value is key in trust building and being a bridge will help us gain influence. This is one of the main ways I have been so successful throughout my career. I have built a great deal of credibility by bridging others together.
Bring knowledgeable, communicating effectively, and being the bridge will allow us to become more credible. Consistently showing up to add value and help others is the way to growing trust with anyone we interact with.
If you would like more information on building trust reach out and set up a call so we can discuss and I can point you in the right direction!
Have a great day!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
You only get one chance to...
The sales process is the key to mastering the art of first impressions, building rapport, and likeability. Once we master the first buying decision of the sales process, we can build rapport with those around us faster!
Good morning everyone!
I hope you are enjoying your summer with your kids home from school, taking trips, and enjoying some downtime in the sun!
I have been thinking about this topic for a while now and decided that it was time to step up on my soap box. I firmly believe that we all need to know how to sell in order to make great first impressions. Whether we are going for a job interview (selling ourselves), out on a date (selling ourselves), leading an organization (selling vision and ourselves), or selling a product or service which means we need to know how to sell (ourselves), etc.
No matter what we are doing, we are selling ourselves as the best option for those around us. We share stories, build friendships, engage with coworkers etc. all of the time. Some people do this really well and some unfortunately do not. This is not simply determined if you are an introvert, or an extrovert to determine if you will do this well. What I am saying is that some just don’t sell themselves well enough.
There are three questions everyone asks at every interaction and they are as follows:
Do I like you?
Do I trust you?
How can you help me?
In seven seconds, a decision is made about the other person based off these three questions. Now there are so many aspects to how one can affect those three questions, that it is key that we know how to sell and why these three questions are affected. Learning the sales process if even just for only buying decision 1, we are definitely on solid footing to move forward with other people.
How we are dressed, what the environment we are in, our posture, our speech patterns, and many more aspects affect how people form their decisions about us. Have you ever heard the phrase. “we only get one chance to make a first impression?” This is because once someone makes that impression about us, it is extremely hard to change.
The sales process is the key to mastering the art of first impressions, building rapport, and likeability. Once we master the first buying decision of the sales process, we can build rapport with those around us faster! This will enable us to make great first impressions, obtain engagement from those around us, and create stronger relationships.
Wouldn’t it be nice to know how to sell and build relationships to make our lives better?
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Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom
“Businesses wonder why the majority of their sales teams struggle at winning profitable business. I teach your sales team to walk with the customer through the five buying decisions, and in the correct order to generate more sales with high margins!”
Proximity, How It Will Help You Win with Customers
Have you ever noticed how you react when you are in a crowded space in comparison to walking in a nearly empty mall?
Have you ever felt uncomfortable with others crowding your space?
There is this principal that depending how close you are to others the more trust is needed. It is called Proximecs. This principal basically defines why at different proximity with others we need different levels of trust. The closer we are to another person the more trust we must have, or we will become uneasy. There is a reason why stadiums sell out so easily for sporting events, coffee shops have people littered all over working on their Macbooks, and why people will wait for hours on hot summer days in lines for the best roller coasters striking up conversations with strangers.
The distances breakdown like this:
Public Distance – 12.1’ +
Social Distance – 4.1’- 12’
Personal Distance 1.6’- 4’
Intimate Distance < 1.5’
The most fun and engaging interactions in our lives occur in social and personal distances. The closer we get to others the more powerful the emotion can be shared during thrilling experiences. Ever had an experience at a sporting event where you were slapping hands with some unknown individuals celebrating a score seemingly without thought about if they washed their hands or not? We are wired to have more emotional significance to others we are in close proximity to. Our bodies actually crave this connection to be understood and these interactions are a way to make that connection.
When working with customers it is extremely hard for us to get in front of them with emails, literature, billboards, etc. We need to get in touch with them on a closer level. This means sales professionals need to be in front of customers often. This is also why deeper relationships are made outside of the office i.e. golfing, sporting events, hands on training, etc. There isn’t a barrier between us and the customer like that of a desk, or board room table. Their guard is lowered and in most cases are more willing to share more details that will enable you to help serve them.
Now that we are in close proximities with the customer and trust is psychologically given as we are in close proximity, deeper discussions can happen and relationships formed. Have you ever had a customer out at lunch share some deep dark secret about the organization just to vent?
Work at meeting with the customer if you want to gain more business with your customers.
Warning!
Keep in mind that the intimate level should be those you should be giving intimate affection to like that of family and spouses. Doing that with customers is just awkward outside of a casual hug when a bond has been made to wish each other well before, or after a meeting.
P.S. the picture associated with this blog will help you understand visually the distances a little better.
Have a great week!
Sincerely,
Kevin Sidebottom