Did you know that your job as a leader is not to just direct, but to build influence with others? That’s right as John Maxwell has stated in many books, keynotes, and interviews…”Leadership is influence.” Without influence we have no leadership. That is why as a leader we need to focus on how to build influence each day.
That starts with taking the focus off our agendas 100 percent of the time and put focus on others around us to make connection. Not just connections on social media, but true connections with these individuals that we interact with on a daily basis.
While I was traveling in Spain from the US I was first taken back by the fact that their culture shuts down from 2 p.m. – 5 p.m. for siesta. I did not understand this as in the US we are always go, move, accomplish. What I learned was that the Spanish culture not just during siesta, but all meals, parties, everywhere is about connection and acts of service to each other. When you are at a party and your drink is low, or your plate is empty, someone is offering you more.
They take time to learn about each other, laugh, cry, serve each other. It was a culture shock for me, but one that left a lasting impact on me that we don’t need to be so focused on goals that we forget how we accomplish these goals. It’s together.
When working with others we need to make sure we are taking time to help others feel known instead of cogs in a machine. They want to know that they matter and that they are making an impact. They also need to be noticed.
Practice Noticing People
Do you know how much impact a simple card when it is someone’s birthday does for that person? They feel like they matter and that others see them. They feel valued and appreciated. Their body language changes where they sit up a little straighter, lean in, and smile.
Practice “Micro-acknowledgement”
Ever been in a meeting and had a leader acknowledge your effort on a tough project? That moment when everyone in the room looks at you and you feel like the one who was just knighted. We may even want to jump up and say that was me, in our minds. It feels great. What about giving kudos to a team member for something they did to help us? A simple thank you goes a long way to the other person feeling known and valued.
Let Curiosity Lead
Far to often we are asking questions to we can push the conversation into one that we win our view point. We want others to jump on our direction and just get things done. When we stop and lean in to curiosity to who people are, why they have a particular view point, we can actually avoid obstacles. I have had many times where I have stumbled because I was so focused on driving forward with my own idea. Being curious about others allows them to feel like they are adding value and that they matter.
When we take time to make sure that others feel known and appreciated, we end up with a strong connection and influence that allows the others to want to go the extra mile with us to achieve the wins we need. When we do this, speed goes up and costs go down. That means more profits for our teams and when that happens everyone wins!
Have a great week!
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