Last week we talked about Grit and why we need grit if we are going to be successful. We talked about the difference between motivation and grit. This week let’s take a step into how we can become more gritty.

Did you know that grit isn’t about being the toughest person in the room? Most people think that to be gritty we need to have some special training, be an elite athlete, a special forces operator, etc. In fact for those that want to be gritty we just need to train our minds.

How to change our minds to rewire how we approach The one who fails, recalibrates, and keeps swinging. The one who turns down the noise in their head and tunes into something stronger.

If you’re serious about becoming unshakeable, this part matters more than all the rest.

Let’s get into it.

Rewire the Voice in Your Head

The most dangerous thing you’ll face isn’t the set-backs. It’s the story you tell yourself about the set-backs and yourself.

Too many people have focused on getting a trophy for showing up and this has made us a little soft. We have not had to push hard for some time and we want the easy button.

It’s actually our brains that intentionally look for the easier path. It is designed to make us efficient, spend less calories, find the less resisdent path, conserve energy. When I read the book “The Comfort Crisis” earlier this year it was a very thought provoking insight on how our brains function.

Through the journey in the Arctic on a hunting trip sleeping on the ground, in a tent…(we camp in the Holiday Express). This author tells how he has learned about our bodies and how the mind finds ways to make us more efficient and comfortable. This is why as a society we gain weight year after year by choosing to do the not so hard things. We instead look for the easy button like GLP1 insulin shots to magically lose weight (for most people).

The Good News

Grit is like a muscle and can be trained. It takes time like losing my “Dad Bod”, these days. it is taking the hard road, leaning into the tough conversations, and not running away from challenges. We need to look at difficult times as well as set-backs as a way to grow out grit muslcles. it does not happen overnight, but we can grow it over time to build the gritty muscle that looks at challenges as a way to improve instead of fear.

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We all want results. Unfortunately too often we expect Fast ones. Visible ones. The kind that make people say, “How’d you do that?” Thanks Amazon…

But behind every meaningful result behind every transformation and breakthrough is actually a long process of set-backs, lessons learned, and caluses.

Grit is not flashy. Frit doesn’t go viral. But it’s the thing that separates people who try from people who actually finish.And if you want to build it, this is where it starts.

If you're serious about becoming someone who finishes what they start, you have to start enjoying the learning that come with the long process that is required to gain traction that is lasting.

Too many people quit not because they’re incapable, but because they expected it to be quick. Grit begins when you accept that this is not a microwave scenario. It’s more of a crockpot kind of process.

Grit doesn’t show up on demand, but every day you show up, especially when it’s inconvenient or thankless, you prove to yourself that you're in it for real.

How to you build grit?

You don’t build grit by reading about it.

You build it by choosing hard things, on purpose. That’s right, intentionally doing hard things. That is why ost people don’t have grit.

Wake up when your alarm goes off the first time. Finish the workout even when your legs are shaking. Speak up in that meeting. Push send on that uncomfortable email.

Over time, those daily decisions stack up. They don’t just build discipline, they build identity. And once you become someone who doesn’t back down, it changes everything how you show up and engage during hard things.

With Grit, there is one uncomfortable truth: motivation is a liar.

Everyone wants to talk about motivation. “Let’s get motivated.” Motivation actually makes big promises in the beginning. You feel pumped, focused, invincible. Then life happens. Stress piles up. Results don’t show fast enough. And just like that, motivation deflates like a balloon that is let loose with no knot to keep the air in.

Grit is what steps in when motivation bails. It says, “We’re doing this anyway.”

If you only act when you feel like it, results will always be held hostage by your mood. But if you train yourself to show up no matter what if you are tired, frustrated, bored, anxious you take your power back.

This is how champions are made. Not with hype, but with follow-through.

You don’t need more motivation. You don’t need a life coach. You don’t need a breakthrough.

You just need to start. Stay consistent. And trust that every small act of perseverance is building something unshakable.

This is how you build grit:

Accept the long haul.
Do the hard thing even when it’s small.
Show up, especially when you don’t want to.

Repeat that enough times, and you won’t need to act gritty anymore, you’ll be gritty.